WANT TOWANT IT
For the woman who wants to feel like herself again. For the couple who's out of sync and can't bridge the gap. For the man who wants to show up differently. This is the expert guide to reigniting desire — together.
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Stop Guessing.
Start Syncing.
For the woman reclaiming her sensuality. For the man who wants to truly understand his partner. For the couple ready to stop being out of sync. This is the step-by-step guide to desire — rooted in functional medicine, Eastern healing traditions, and modern sex research.
- The anatomy of orgasm — clitoral, vaginal, cervical, and full-body — and how to expand what's possible for your unique body
- The Arousal Scale: stop racing to the finish and learn to build pleasure that's longer, deeper, and more profound
- Why mismatched desire doesn't mean incompatibility — and the libido codes that reveal how you and your partner are wired differently
- Tantric and Taoist techniques — including edging, the Microcosmic Orbit, and the Ancient Techniques — that transform ordinary sex into something you'll actually crave
- How sexual shame, attachment style, perfectionism, and past experiences quietly kill desire — and the specific practices that unwind each one
- Mindfulness as a bedroom skill: why presence is the single most powerful thing you can do to deepen intimacy
- How to map your own erogenous zones so you can finally ask for what you want — with confidence
— Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, LAc
"There is a great deal of bad advice available to couples wanting to experience more love, intimacy and passion, and so little good advice rooted in scientific truth and juicy, effective practices. Want to Want It Part 2 stands alone as an authoritative, helpful resource that covers the topic comprehensively. Dr. Diane Mueller shares her wisdom in a way that is enjoyable to read, easy to implement, and provides guidance on all the ingredients of a delicious sex life!
As someone who has written about intimacy and worked with married couples for years, I am thrilled to be able to recommend this book to countless couples dealing with stressful lives, disconnection, exhaustion, mismatched libido, and the erosion of passion. It will help you become a confident lover, knowing what you enjoy and ready to learn what your partner enjoys—and you'll have a lot of fun in the process!"
Start where every couple starts — Part One: How to Want Sex, Have More of It, and Get Better at It. Available now on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Apple Books, Kobo, and most major online retailers.
You Love Each Other.
But Something's Gone Quiet.
"Low libido isn't a character flaw. It's a signal. And it doesn't matter which of you is feeling it — it can be fixed, together."
"I've spent years putting everyone else first. I've lost touch with my own desire — and I don't even know how to find my way back to myself."
"One of us wants more, one of us wants less. We love each other but we're completely out of sync — and talking about it just makes things worse."
"I want to show up better for my partner. I want to understand what she needs, bring the spark back, and finally have a plan — not just good intentions."
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This book is a total game-changer for anyone struggling with low libido or feeling disconnected. Dr. Diane approaches the topic with honesty and compassion. It's science-based and authentically human.
Changed my relationship and my life. We had no idea how to talk about it — and this book gave us the tools and the courage to say what we never could before. Best book for couples on the market.
I realized I wasn't broken. There are practices to re-ignite everything. We didn't just improve our sex life — we rebuilt our connection from the ground up.
As a physician specializing in sexual medicine, this book is a much-needed resource. It dives deep into the real root causes of low libido — something that gets brushed off far too often.
Dr. Diane makes a compelling case that, with the right tools, any couple can sustain the spark — honoring both emotional safety and erotic vitality at the same time.
Balances technical depth with real-life narrative. This is the expert shortcut I wish I'd had years ago. Excellent choice for anyone who wants more desire in their relationship.
Where Every Couple's Journey Begins
Whether you're a woman who's lost touch with her own desire after years of putting everyone else first, a man who wants to show up as a better lover and actually understand his partner, or a couple navigating the painful gap of mismatched libido — Part One was written for you.
Low libido is not a relationship failure. It's a symptom. And symptoms have root causes — hormones, gut health, chronic stress, poor sleep, nutritional gaps, pelvic health. Things that can be identified and fixed when you know what to look for.
Part One gives you the science, the compassion, and the specific tools to flip the switch. Not with another date night. Not by waiting to be in the mood. With a real understanding of what's actually going on in your body — and a clear, expert path forward for both of you.
This isn't just a book about sex. It's a book about feeling alive again — as individuals and as a couple.
One Switch Flipped
Changes Everything
- For her: Reconnect with your own desire and reclaim your sensuality after years of putting everyone else first — without shame, without pressure.
- For him: Understand what she actually needs, show up as a better lover, and learn techniques that create more pleasure for both of you.
- For the couple: Bridge the desire gap without resentment or rejection — whether you're the higher or lower desire partner, there's a targeted path for you.
- Identify and eliminate the root cause of low libido — hormones, gut, stress, pelvic health — so you stop guessing and fix the right thing.
- Learn to be in the mood even when you're not feeling it. Responsive desire is real and trainable.
- Build passion that gets better with time — not despite your long-term commitment, but because of it.
"Low libido is not a character flaw. It's a signal. A symptom of an imbalance — and symptoms have root causes. Pleasure is not just about desire. It is something we require."
Dr. Diane
If you're a woman reading this — maybe you've spent years putting everyone else first, and somewhere along the way, your own desire got buried under all of it. You don't feel broken. But you feel distant from yourself. I want you to know: that part of you isn't gone. It just needs the right conditions to come back.
If you're a man reading this — maybe you can see your partner has pulled away, or you know you could show up better but you don't have the tools. You want a plan, not just good intentions. You want to understand her, lead with confidence, and bring something real back into your relationship. That's exactly what this gives you.
And if you're a couple navigating mismatched desire — you're not broken either. One of you wants more. One of you feels the pressure of that. You love each other, but the gap keeps growing and talking about it goes nowhere. Desire mismatch isn't a sign of incompatibility. It's a solvable problem — and this is how you solve it together.
I've helped 30,000+ couples in exactly these situations. I live this work myself. This is your turning point.
Dr. Diane Mueller
Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, is a Board Certified Sexologist and the libido expert to 30,000+ couples. With dual doctorates in Naturopathic Medicine and Acupuncture & Oriental Medicine, she brings a rare blend of clinical precision and holistic insight — finding and fixing the root cause, not just the symptom.
As the founder of My Libido Doc, host of The Libido Lounge podcast, and creator of the Hot Monogamy Society, Dr. Diane has built the most comprehensive expert system available for couples who want to stop guessing and start syncing their desire for the long haul.
Her work is not just scientific — it's personal. Having navigated her own health and relationship challenges, she brings genuine empathy to every conversation. She doesn't just teach this. She lives it.
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The woman who wants to feel like herself again. The man who wants to show up better. The couple who's out of sync and needs a real path forward. The expert guide is here. The shortcut is real. 30,000+ couples have already taken it.