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Welcome to the Libido Lounge

Dr. Diane: Welcome to the Libido Lounge, where we focus on all things love, lust, and libido. We believe that fabulous sex is as important to health as exercise and good food.

Welcome back to another episode of the Libido Lounge. I’m your host, Dr. Diane, your Libido Doc, and I’m really excited about introducing you to holistic sex coach Jamie Thompson. I met Jamie many years ago at a really beautiful S Factor–type sensual dance practice, and one of the things that was instantly striking to me about Jamie is how deeply she is embodied in her feminine, in her pleasure, in her passion.

It’s really a pleasure for me to introduce you all to her today. She has so many practices where she helps women in so many ways—working with pleasure, finding orgasm, bliss, and so much more. We’re going to dive into so many juicy details today.

Dr. Diane: Welcome, Jamie! I’m so excited to spend some time with you.

Jamie: Yes, it’s such a pleasure to be here, Diane, thank you. And I love remembering those sensual dance days—it feels like forever ago in so many ways.

From Repression to Radiance

Dr. Diane: Tell us a little bit about your path, how you got inspired to develop the work that you do, and why you’re so passionate about working with women.

Jamie: Yes, absolutely. I used to work with couples, but now I primarily work with groups of women online and in retreats. It’s centered around sexuality, pleasure, embodying our femaleness and feminine potency, and really falling back in love with our bodies.

I grew up in the exact opposite of that—in a very repressed, religious kind of household. Everything was contained and rigid. Later in life, I rebelled and went through a whole sexual liberation phase, but it wasn’t deeply fulfilling or heart-centered. I even experienced sexuality as very utilitarian—like using a vibrator at lunchtime for a quick climax. It was a three-minute experience, and I wasn’t even really touching myself or connecting with my body.

I always felt there was something more. Something more in sexuality, in erotic energy, in life force. And it definitely wasn’t being found in my vibrator or in the relationships I had at that time. I even almost married someone I didn’t have great sexual chemistry with, simply because I wanted to be loved.

Sacred Sexuality and the Cervical Awakening

Jamie: Things changed when I started studying sacred sexuality—Temple arts, Tantra, and other lineages that celebrate sexual energy as life force, as healing and creative energy. I had an erotic awakening during lovemaking—it was my first cervical orgasm. I knew instantly that what I experienced was something totally different. It felt like my cells lit up, like I was walking down the street with my head held higher.

That was the beginning of a whole new path. I started researching cervical orgasm, even though it’s still understudied in medicine. And for the last six years, I’ve been holding groups and retreats for women to support them in this journey.

The Good Girl Mentality and Purity Culture

Dr. Diane: So much of what you said is relatable. Let’s start with the “good girl” mentality. Can you talk a bit about how that plays into our sexuality, desire, and pleasure?

Jamie: Absolutely. Purity culture stems from religious doctrine that says a woman is only “pure” if she’s not sexually active outside of marriage. It’s deeply woven into our society, whether or not we’re religious, because our culture was founded on these beliefs.

This programming teaches women to stay quiet, not ask for what they want—in work or in the bedroom—and to center everyone else’s needs over their own. Pleasure becomes about someone else’s experience, not our own. And that’s not even getting into the whole idea of Madonna/whore complexes. There’s this split: you’re either pure or you’re degraded.

Reclaiming Pleasure and Sensual Power

Jamie: Reclaiming your pleasure starts with reconnecting to what you love and how it feels in your body. This is the foundational step before exploring something like cervical orgasm.

Dr. Diane: Yes! Let’s go deeper into cervical orgasms. What is it, and how does a woman begin to explore that for herself?

Jamie: Great question. For so many women, their turn-on has been outsourced to someone else—usually a partner. But true turn-on lives within. The cervix is the deepest part of the vaginal canal and an incredible organ that can orgasm. It’s connected to the uterus and innervated by three different nerves, making it capable of more expansive orgasm than the clitoris.

But to experience cervical orgasm, you have to be connected to your heart. You also have to retrain your nervous system and map that area back into your brain. For many women, the cervix feels like a numb or even painful area at first.

Cervical Dearmoring and Awakening

Jamie: Most of us carry tension in the cervix, just like knots in our shoulders. Dearmoring helps release that. A simple practice is slowing down during self-pleasure or intimacy, placing a wand or your partner’s tip at the cervix, and breathing—exhaling with a sigh. Let your body open instead of clenching. This starts to create the neural pathways to awaken sensation.

Dr. Diane: That connection to the heart is so important. In Chinese medicine, there’s a direct energetic connection between the heart and uterus. And I recently had my IUD removed, which dramatically increased my capacity for cervical orgasm. What have you seen with things like IUDs or energetic blocks?

Jamie: While I’m not a doctor and can’t give medical advice, I’ve seen this many times. IUDs or even belly button piercings can block energetic flow. Removing them can increase connection, pleasure, and energy flow. Cervical orgasm is also very energetic—it involves toning the vagus nerve, which can open up full-body orgasm. Any block, whether mental, physical, or energetic, can limit that.

Crying During Sex and Emotional Release

Jamie: Another common question I get: is it okay to cry during sex? Yes! In fact, crying is common during cervical orgasm. It’s often guttural, shaking, deeply emotional. Real pleasure isn’t performative—it’s raw feminine power. A woman in her full orgasmic state can sound more like she’s giving birth than anything you’d see in porn.

If your heart is closed or you fear vulnerability, that blocks sensation. Feeling is healing. Releasing emotion during intimacy is sacred.

Dr. Diane: That’s such a beautiful reminder. And it really shows how different cervical orgasm is from a clitoral one—it’s not something you can “make happen.” It’s about openness—physically, emotionally, spiritually.

A Final Invitation: Start Your Journey

Dr. Diane: We’re just about out of time, but before we wrap, I’d love for you to share how people can connect with you and any offerings you have for our listeners.

Jamie: Yes! I’d love to gift your listeners a 3-part video series called Gush. It’s an introduction to awakening your orgasmic potential—especially the cervical kind. I talk about gushing, cervical pleasure, and lead three powerful rituals. It’s a great place to start, especially if you’re working through numbness, pain, or shame.

And for those ready to go deeper, I also offer a program called [__] Portal—a 6-week guided journey into cervical awakening with dearmoring practices and wand work.

Dr. Diane: Amazing! We’ll link that in the show notes for you all.

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