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Mindfulness for Mind-Blowing Sex | Ep 28

Mindfulness for Mind-Blowing Sex

Mindfulness for Mind-Blowing Sex

Episode 28

Mindfulness for Mind-Blowing Sex

Ever wondered why a kiss can send shivers down your spine or why certain touches linger in your memory? 

In today’s episode, join us as we explore the nuances of a woman’s crescendo to climax and share transformative practices that will align your mind and body for a more thrilling sexual life. We’ll delve into the art of slowing down, the concept of a runner’s high and its sexual parallels, and strategies to foster a profound connection with our body beyond the boudoir.

We’ll cover:
  • Mindfulness and sex
  • The art of tuning into your 5 senses
  • Why it can be so difficult to reach sexual climax
  • Ways to achieve a better mind-body connection

Stay classy and sexy. Slip into something comfortable, and listen to the episode now. 💖

Table of Contents

Mindfulness for Mind-Blowing Sex

Dr. Diane: Welcome to the Libido Lounge, where we focus on all things love, lust, and libido. We believe that fabulous sex is as important to health as exercise and good food.

Everybody, welcome back to the lounge. In this particular episode, we’re going to talk about lifestyle for libido. One of the most important tips for improving libido, orgasm, and your sex and relationship life in general is learning how to be more and more present in the body.

What Does It Mean to Be “In the Body”?

Dr. Diane: So what do I mean by that? I know some of you know, but some of you probably don’t. Being “in the body” means being present to the five senses—being present to the touch of your skin, how it feels when your hand or your partner’s hand is on your body. Being present to smells, sounds—the full experience of the five senses.

The practice of pleasure is really the practice of being present. And this is true not just in the bedroom, but in life.

The Missing Ingredient: Presence

Dr. Diane: Have you ever eaten a lovely meal—maybe someone cooked it for you or you made it yourself—and then realized you scarfed it down so fast you didn’t even enjoy it? That’s a sign you weren’t in your body.

When we’re in the body with food, we chew slowly, savor textures and flavors, and allow the experience to impact our senses. The same is true in the bedroom. Enjoying sex, reaching orgasm, connecting with our partner’s body—these are all so much deeper when we’re actually present.

When the Mind Wanders…

Dr. Diane: So, what does this mean practically? It means your mind isn’t wandering to the grocery list, the kids, or what you’re doing afterward. Of course, we’ve all had moments where that happens—and that’s natural.

Lifestyle for libido means practicing presence with the senses in daily life, so it becomes easier to bring into the bedroom. Meditation, mindfulness, visualization—these are all similar. If your mind drifts during sex, just like in meditation, gently bring it back to the present: how does your partner’s hand feel on your thigh? How does it feel to look into their eyes?

Why It Matters for Connection and Pleasure

Dr. Diane: When I bring my mind back during sex, I can sense on some level that my partner can feel that shift. Maybe it’s a moan, or something in the moment changes. Being present makes sex more enjoyable. You might notice more lubrication. You might even feel more connected.

This is where life becomes a practice for sex, and sex becomes a practice for life.

Sex as a Mindfulness Practice

Dr. Diane: Practicing presence in life improves stress, neurological plasticity, and nervous system health. Sex is a form of mindfulness—it’s tactile, sensory, and grounding.

You can do mindfulness on a walk—no music, no audiobook. Just the birds, wind in the trees, crunch of leaves, color of the sky. Bringing this kind of awareness into your daily life trains your mind to stay present—especially helpful for women, whose brains naturally take in a lot of sensory input all at once.

Orgasm and the Power of Focus

Dr. Diane: Many women have trouble reaching orgasm—or it takes a long time. You’re not alone. Around 20% of women have difficulty achieving orgasm at all, and for others, it may take 20, 40, even 60 minutes.

Women tend to take longer to respond sexually due to our anatomy and physiology. Orgasm requires letting go of everything and tuning into your own pleasure. It truly is a mindfulness activity.

If you’re not present in your body, it’s very difficult to come.

The Runner’s High, The Orgasm High

Dr. Diane: I’m a runner, and there’s a thing called runner’s high—an endorphin rush when you push through the pain. To get there, your mind has to stay hyperfocused. That’s similar to orgasm. The more present you are, the more likely you’ll experience that release.

So how do we build that presence?

Action Steps for Daily Life

Dr. Diane: There are two main practices—one in life, one in the bedroom.

  • In life, build in time to feel your senses:
  • Have one slow, mindful meal each day.
  • Sip a cup of tea or wine slowly and really taste it.
  • Take a bath once a week. Focus on how the water feels on your skin, the smells, the dim lighting.
  • Dance! Salsa, pole, or freeform dance is great. Let your body move from the inside out—no choreography needed. Feel your hips, shoulders, hands move naturally. If your mind starts thinking, gently bring it back.

Action Steps for the Bedroom

Dr. Diane: In the bedroom, focus on sensation:

  • The feeling of your partner’s skin.
  • The warmth of your thighs touching.
  • The look in their eyes.

If your mind wanders, don’t judge it—just bring it back. Ask: how does this feel in my vagina, vulva, breasts, thighs?

Pleasure lives in the body. Keep returning to it.

Wrap-Up and Invitation

Dr. Diane: I hope this gives you a lot to work with. I’d love to hear your comments or the embodiment activities you use. This is such a rich conversation, and I appreciate you joining me.

I’m Dr. Diane, the Libido Doc, reminding you to always stay sexy, always stay classy, and always remain a little badassy.

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