Reviving Passion: Understanding Female Arousal After Menopause

Hey, are you having a hard time getting in the mood as you get older? Now that you are no longer 25, is sexy time suddenly not so sexy anymore?  In this blog we want to address the common misconceptions and concerns about female arousal after menopause. What are the physiological and emotional factors influencing arousal during this phase?

Actionable steps and solutions to enhance your intimate well-being.

There are sometimes challenges and myths with postmenopausal intimacy. Possible challenges include decreased libido and vaginal dryness. Sometimes desire and intimacy can diminish with age.

Menopausal and postmenopausal women may notice that they’re not as easily aroused. They may be less sensitive to touching and stroking. That can lead to less interest in sex. Lower levels of estrogen can cause a drop in blood supply to the vagina. 

A Healthy Female Arousal After Menopause is Absolutely Possible!

And we need to always bear in mind, that each woman’s experience may be different. Some women may have no issues with arousal and some may have quite a few. And most women will fall somewhere in the middle. But we can all benefit from knowing more about female arousal after menopause. Knowledge is Power after all!

Lower estrogen levels and the impact on vaginal health and lubrication

Diminished estrogen levels during menopause can result in vaginal atrophy. Vaginal atrophy is the thinning, drying, and inflammation of the vaginal walls. It often occurs due to a decrease in estrogen levels, commonly associated with menopause. Symptoms include vaginal dryness, itching, burning, and discomfort during sexual intercourse. Estrogen is crucial for maintaining the vaginal mucosa and promoting natural lubrication. The reality is that this hormonal change affects the mucous membranes, reducing natural lubrication.

Other hormonal changes influencing libido and responsiveness 

In addition to estrogen, other hormonal changes can influence libido and sexual responsiveness. Testosterone, although present in smaller amounts in women, plays a role in sexual desire. Low testosterone levels in women can contribute to a decrease in libido and arousal. Testosterone influences the sensitivity of sexual tissues and enhances blood flow to the genital area, impacting sexual responsiveness. 

Fluctuations in progesterone and other hormones can also impact sexual interest and responsiveness. 

Progesterone influences mood, vaginal well-being and a woman’s overall sense of well-being. Low progesterone may contribute to mood swings or irritability, which can indirectly impact sexual arousal. Low progesterone levels during menopause can lead to reduced libido and discomfort during intimacy

These hormonal changes can affect the intricate interplay involved in sexual function.
There is also the emotional side of menopause. We might be feeling less desirable or have self-image concerns. These thoughts can have potential effects on our relationship dynamics. It is an emotionally complex time. The hormonal fluctuations can affect mood and well-being. We may sometimes feel irritable, anxious, or sad. 

The decline in estrogen may contribute to changes in skin, weight distribution, and energy levels. This can affect influence our body image and self-esteem. The reduced levels of estrogen and possibly testosterone can cause a loss of confidence.
It is also a time of life events, family changes, relationships, and work issues which can all have an effect, along with the physical changes of aging.

This is where the role of communication and emotional connection in arousal is super important.

Importance of foreplay and emotional intimacy 

Foreplay and emotional intimacy become increasingly important at this time. Extended foreplay enhances natural lubrication and makes intimacy more comfortable. Emotional closeness with your partner fosters trust. This positive communication about physical changes can help ensure a supportive, fulfilling sexual experience. It is important to tell your partner what you need so you can deal with these realities together.

What can we do to enhance intimacy (and female arousal after menopause?)

There are many directions to take to address menopausal libido changes and rejuvenate our sexual wellness:

  • Invest in a good vaginal lubricant or moisturizer. Lube reduces friction and pain and can increase pleasure. When women use lube, they are more likely to orgasm. That’s a good enough reason to try it right?
  • Look into possible hormone therapy or HRT with your doctor. Hormone replacement can help combat the effects of lowered estrogen and alleviate symptoms of menopause.
  • Explore therapy or counseling for addressing deeper emotional concerns. Maybe investigate going to couples therapy with your partner so that you can navigate this transition together.
  • Be sure to get regular health check-ups for optimal vaginal care.
  • Talk to your girlfriends! What are they going through? As women, we often have deep and wonderful friendships. This gives us a superpower – a vast supply of knowledge and support that we can draw on from our friends, so use it for mutual support.
  • This is a time for self-care and self-love. Explore things that make you feel good about your body. Try a massage, a bubble bath, exercise, a yoga class, a haircut or new lingerie. Whatever makes you feel sexy!
  • Quality time with your partner is important. Go on date nights or special weekends away. Disconnect from the day to day, turn off your phones and focus on each other.
  • Support a strong libido with good lifestyle choices. Eat a healthy and nutritious diet. Exercise, which increases blood flow. Sleep well. Try herbs such as ashwagandha and maca to help boost libido and arousal.

Despite some ups and down due to menopause, intimacy and arousal can still thrive post-menopause. 


This is a time to prioritize your intimate well-being and embrace the journey. Talk and have open conversations about intimacy with your partner. Have these conversations with your girlfriends. We also encourage you to seek personalized advice from your healthcare professional. 

That’s a wrap for female arousal after menopause!! You can get sexy back and rejuvenate your sex life post-menopause!

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