What is Low Libido?
Low libido is basically a term for a low sex drive. The mayo clinic reports that there is no number that classically defines the diagnosis of “low libido”. Our perspective on this is that what determines whether your libido is low or is not based upon anything such as number of days you go in between intimate desires. [i]
Some research uses the female sexual function index scoring system which is a survey that scores women in 6 areas including arousal, desire, lubrication, orgasm, satisfaction and pain. While this survey is subjective, it is helpful to in determining the gap between where you are with your libido and where you want to be. To Take This Assessment You Can Go HERE.
Instead, low libido is based upon your own individual relationship to intimacy. Your libido is low in part if you feel that a decreased interest is negatively affecting your life. Sexual intimacy has a lot of health benefits. One of which is that it causes a release of oxytocin, the “connection hormone”, which has a side benefit of lowering our stress hormones.
This is one example of amazing benefits we can get from intimate moments; however, the point here is really that the frequency of intimate engagement has a wide range of what is healthy.
The fact is however, if you are reading this, it may very well be that you are trying to determine if you (or someone in your life) is experiencing a low libido. If you are questioning if yours is too low, ask yourself these questions.
· Do you think you could benefit in your personal life from a higher libido?
· Do you think that you could benefit in your interpersonal life from a higher libido?
· Was there a time in your life when you had a higher libido and felt positive benefits from it?
· What do you think a higher libido would create in your life that you do not have now?
· Would you benefit (and how specifically) from having an increased libido?
Here is the story:
If those above questions made you feel like having more of a libido would create positive thing in your life, than yes, it is likely that you have a lower libido than you could. Healthy libido function can happen at any age.
There are many factors that cause our libido to fall, and they compound as we age. Minor physical or emotional stressors add up over time and this leads to a fall in libido that some people say is natural with the healing process.
While it is COMMON as we age, it is not exactly natural. You can read about some of the reasons on our blog: Low Libido In Women
At The Libido Doctor we help women who want to want it. Sign up for our masterclass to learn specifics on root causes of low libido (beyond just hormones) and specific things you can do to improve yours!